My Gift is Not…



My gift is not hospitality. It’s just not. Hospitality is opening up your house when there are dishes in the sink,  laundry in the wash, just enough food for one person (not even prepared), and lovingly opening up your home/ place to people to just come in and be welcomed.

Hospitality is not about making everything look perfect and be perfect (because perfect is not a thing), and being a complete crazy person until all is the unattainable perfection. Unfortunately I know what hospitality should be, but still yearn for the Instagrammable everything. As much as I wish true hospitality was a gift I excelled in, I’m still learning.

My last Women’s Day dinner was, once again, a lesson in true hospitality. I wanted it to be perfect. A good menu. Beautiful decor. A list of friends- not too many, but not too few. I planned everything. EVERYTHING! And as always, plans change. I did not plan to sit for 40 minutes in traffic leading up to the dinner- 40 minutes of precious prep time that all I could do was sit and fume.


I got to the house, and starting going crazy like a mad person! A few friends showed up early (planned), and I put them to work. SO thankful for sweet friends who will just pick up my mess and love me anyway. I should have been more thankful in the moment, but instead I was upset that they weren’t moving fast enough or having any sense of urgency. When other friends showed up early, I was even more mad that people had the audacity to come early- who does that- who shows up early? In the land of manana… no way. I chose myself, over love. I chose selfishness over being grateful to have such encouraging, serving women in my life who came early to help out.

Even as I reflect on the evening I have to remind myself to not be upset that no one got the ‘perfect photo’ of the beautiful table… or the best photo of the great decor. I have to remember the great conversations; the mingling of different friend groups; the time each woman gave up to spend their evening with me. THAT is the point of a great dinner party- not the food, not the money spent, and definitely NOT photos taken (but still, guys, come on…in a room full of millenials NO ONE TOOK A FREAKING PHOTO OF THE TABLE?)


I know that I want to be more hospitable. I want a spirit that just opens her heart and home to all, regardless of the aesthetic of the photos that could be taken. I’m praying for it. I’m searching for it. I’m trying for it… but until then I’ll just rely on the love of friends and their graciousness. ❤

Be reminded that behind the nice photos there is usually someone who sat in terrible traffic, cooked throughout the dinner party, and is still upset (weeks later) that nothing went as planned. 😉





Baby Shower for Baby S


I know I’ve said it before, & I know I’ll say it again… but I LOVE THEMED PARTIES!

This past weekend we celebrated Baby S & Michel (…& I guess Mitch too) at Los Poblanos. Michel deserves the world, & I’m so glad her shower was at LP because it was perfect. We did an afternoon tea, which was out of this world delicious.

Meeting Michel’s friends was also so sweet. I’m such a friend hog/ small group person, that I didn’t really know a lot of her friends before this event… but I am so glad I got to love on Michel with her dearest friends at her shower. ❤ They are the nicest people.

Party planning can be a little stressful, but Michel’s shower was the least stress inducing event in the world (which is saying a lot, because I attract stress). Definitely in part because her friend, Kristin, was the perfect co-host, (she did all the flowers herself!) & also because LP does everything to make it relaxing. I just want everything, ever, to be held there forever. I don’t think lavender fields will ever lose their magic.


Little Baby S, you are so loved. I pray that you will be healthy, happy, kind, motivated, & love Jesus. Selfishly, I ask God that you love me too. ❤


p.s. these tassel balloons are SO easy to make, and inexpensive! literally the most difficult part is getting them all in your car. 4 fit in a small car, so plan accordingly. also it was windy & when I was taking them out of my car the wind blew them into my face so several lipstick marks made their way onto the balloons. wouldn’t be a liz event if something embarrassing didn’t happen. 😉

An American in Paris


I’ve been on a real love story kick lately. I’ve also been on a live-show kick. Thankfully these two pair together beautifully when you have friends that also love live theater, and several great venues in town to go to that have so many genres to chose from.

My dearest, sweetest Alderkater invited me to see “An American in Paris,” last week. (Alderkater is a name I stole when Jon and Kate Plus 8 was a thing. One of the 8 couldn’t say alligator and said alderkater. My Alderkater’s name is Kate. It fit. Nicknames are weird.)

I wasn’t in love, love with the story, or the chemistry of the performers, but the show did not disappoint! Beautiful dancing. Gorgeous singing. I left feeling as if I could do both. Guess what, I cannot.


I love girls nights out/ date nights that aren’t the usual- and this one was so much fun. I definitely encourage you to check out your local theater company/ see a traveling Broadway show near you.

Also dressing up for anything is my favorite. I wish I could just have a personal photographer whenever I’m feeling my outfit. I was definitely feeling it last week, and just felt so weird asking people to take them. So I didn’t. I regret it. lol. No all I have from that night are a few selfies. 😦

*it says “another tulle skirt,” because I own 3 tulle skirts and I wore all of them last week. I’m a 4-year-old in a 28-year-old’s body. Sorry, not sorry. *


last weekend

Last weekend I helped put on GIRL Extravaganza 2017! Basically an exhibitors fair for Girl Scouts, community members, & families that consisted mostly of STEM activities!

It was SO. MUCH. FUN. Participants were able to ‘play with’ interactive displays, robots, 3D printers, make slime, wood carve, create art for the community, dress-up, & even try out a mobile Ninja course!

Putting together an event of 500+ participants isn’t always the easiest (in fact if you can do it without stressing out like a crazy person, I think you’re magic), but it’s so much sweeter when you see the faces of kids & adults light up! Maybe my favorite part of the whole event was seeing the girls try out the warped wall! They didn’t stop, or even think that they couldn’t do it… they just tried their hardest & encouraged their friends to do the same. ❤ LOVE. I know when I try something new now, I always belittle my attempt. Something I took away from last weekend was to never doubt yourself and JUST TRY.

Also, I’m ready for a chill weekend, but balloon fiesta starts tomorrow, so that’s not happening!




We Are ABQ

IMG_2027Have I ever mentioned how much I love my city? Albuquerque, sometimes (a lot of the time…), is portrayed in such a negative light. Although, I know that the crime is real and obviously stats on education &/ poverty don’t lie, I truly believe in the good of our city, and the possibility for the future! For the narrative of the city to change we need to encourage people to come here, stay here, and invoke positive change here. I’m so glad that others in the city have the same vision. Last weekend I volunteered with SOMOS ABQ. This event hopes to “illuminate everything good” Albuquerque has to offer. Ummm, yes please.

From the eclectic art to the diverse music, and from the yummy food to the friendly people- it was all so good and SO New Mexico. Definitely would recommend to ALL for next year!




17 reasons ‘concerning hobbits’


obviously if I was a Middle Earth character, I’d be a hobbit. (also FYI, I am obsessed with Tolkien…) Here’s some of my reasoning on resonating with hobbits:

  1. I’m short. That automatically puts me in the category of dwarves/ halflings.
  2. Bare-feet is the way to go!
  3. 1st breakfast
  4. I’ll probably be an adult by the time I’m 30, right?
  5. I love getting & giving presents!
  6. 2nd breakfast
  7. elevensies
  8. Give me all the quiet time please!
  9. luncheon
  11. afternoon tea
  12. Hobbits appreciate life, and relationships.
  13. dinner
  14. They love to laugh!
  15. supper
  16. The Shire ❤
  17. For the most part, I like predictability in a day, but if a wizard showed up at my door, I’m in for the adventure!

* yes, I have a hobbit cloak…. and yes, I wore it out last Friday for Hobbit Day, where I celebrated with a pint of beer!

pajama party | bachelorette edition


we love themed parties. any reason to turn a party into a themed one should be pounced on.

sophia’s bachelorette party turned into a comfy pj party- complete with themed snacks and a photo board!

Gayle & team did an amazing job putting this party on, & it was a beautiful time of celebrating sophia (& her fiance).

Also, please enjoy this photo progression of our sister pics, where Gayle suddenly becomes amazed with my gold sparkle toe polish.